I’ve been wanting to write about our engagement for a while. Mainly because I am a memory collector and I always want to be able to peek back into this part of my life. It truly has been the sweetest time of my life so far. I am getting ready to marry the love of my life!
Quentin and I got engaged on December 16th, 2017, seven months after we graduated. We met at Rockhurst University in the fall of 2013.
It was truly the most perfect proposal. I couldn’t have dreamed up a better day.
That morning, I went with my mom and sisters to go and get my nails done. I was a little bit suspicious but my mom did a really great job of throwing me off. I got my nails painted Christmas-y red. Christmas is my absolute favorite time of year.
That afternoon we got dressed and ready to head down to Top of the Rock (one of my all time favorite spots in the Ozarks). My parents, Paige and John-David all left about 20 minutes before us to go pick up John-David’s friend Joey.
30 minutes later, I was starting to get stressed. Claire was taking so long to get ready. I was beginning to think that we would miss our reservation. We finally left the house and just as we got to the highway, Quentin realized that he left his wallet at home. I was so frustrated! We were definitely going to miss out reservation.
Little did I know that Q was timing everything perfectly. We finally arrived at Top of the Rock. It was a beautiful, unseasonably warm December night. The sun was just beginning to set over the lake. Quentin and I strolled around looking for my family who had beaten us there.
We walked out on a patio with a stunning view of Table Rock. I realized that no one was around. Somehow, we were the only two people around. We took in the view for a few quick minutes. It was enough time for me to realize what was about to happen. I turned towards Quentin who was getting down on one knee.
He pulled the ring out from under his shirt. He drove the entire way to Branson with the ring hidden in the armpit of his sweater! Haha!
He said a few things that neither of us can remember, but I’m sure they were so sweet. And then finally the words, “Will you marry me?”.
I burst into tears and feel onto my knees. I was wearing huge shoes and was worried that I would trip from excitement. Quentin pointed up to a balcony above us. His family had traveled all the way from Kansas City to celebrate with us that night. Both families had a perfect view of the proposal. It was the best night of my life.
We had dinner in a small, secret room. You had to enter through a false bookshelf! I remember not being able to eat. I’ll never forget the feeling of gratitude I had that night; celebrating with the people I love, cozy in a small room lit by the fireplace.
We are getting married on June 15, 2019 at the same church where my parents were married 27 years ago. Quentin, I cannot wait to spend the rest of our lives together!
Reading is one of my favorite past times. There’s nothing better than, for a few hours, escaping to someone else’s world.
For the past few years I have been keeping a running list of which books I’ve read throughout that year. It’s fun to look back on each one. It almost serves as a little time machine into who I was in that small phase of my life.
One of my favorite weekend activities is going to Half-Priced Books and browsing the clearance section. One time I left with 10 books for just $30.
Sharing with others is a such a huge part of who I am so I thought that I would release my lists out into the world.
Something Blue by Emily Giffin
Vision in White by Nora Roberts
Bed of Roses by Nora Roberts
Me Before You by Jojo Moyes
Savor the Moment by Nora Roberts
Happily Ever After by Nora Roberts
Bloom by Kelle Hampton
Yes Please by Amy Poehler
A Farewell to Arms by Earnest Hemingway
Love the One You’re With by Emily Giffin
The Nest by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney
The Woman in Cabin 10 by Ruth Ware
The Christmas Wedding by James Patterson
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
The Art of Hearing Heartbeats by Jan-Philipp Sendker
Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur
Watermelon by Marian Keyes
The Heart of the Matter by Emily Giffin
Mr. Penumbra’s 24-hour Book Store by Robin Sloan
The Language of Flower’s Vanessa Diffenbaugh
Mr. Miracle by Debbie Maycomber
At First Sight by Nicholas Sparks
Save the Date by Mary Kay Andrews
How to Stop Time by Matt Haig
Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis
If you have any book suggestions send them my way!
As part of my Lenten goal for this year, I decided that I wanted to take a break from social media and really make an effort to live in the present moment. I didn’t know how this would effect my blog writing. I decided that, if I was feeling inspired, I would write. I did not want to push myself to meet any deadlines or stretch my self to live up to unrealistic standards that I tend to set for myself.
A large part of living in the moment began with my morning routine. I have never been much of a morning person up until this year. Mornings have since become my most cherished part of the day. A great morning makes for a fantastic day.
There is something about waking up and having time to sip some coffee and watch the sun come up. I was blessed with an absolutely beautiful sunrise this morning. Even better than watching the sun rise over the rainy clouds, was opening my copy of Jesus Calling and reading this:
“Bring Me the sacrifice of thanksgiving. Take nothing for granted, not even the rising of the sun.”
Could that have been any more perfect? God is always speaking to us. We just have to take the time to listen.
I love to take the time to journal and pray first thing in the morning before I have the chance to become distracted by my to-do list or my iPhone. Even if five minutes is all I have to offer to God, those five minutes have the power to influence the rest of my day. God knows exactly how to speak to you and what you need to hear. This morning I was reminded of how incredibly lucky I am to be able to see the sunrise.
Meditation is another great tool for staying mindful. Many people struggle with the concept of meditation. Sitting still with your thoughts, even for just a few minutes, can seem incredibly daunting. The key is to remember that practice always helps. Stay positive and be patient with yourself. With time, meditation will become second natured.
Guided meditation can be very beneficial to a meditation practice. There are endless options for guided meditation on YouTube or on your smart phone. I use a free app called Calm. Guided meditations can help you to stay focused and in the present. Here is a quote from my afternoon meditation:
Finally, have fun with your morning routine!
Add things to your room that make you happy. Keeping fresh flowers or your favorite stuffed animal by your bed will never fail to put a smile on your face 🙂
Featured on the home page of my blog is a beautiful photo of a few delicate, white peonies. I love this photo. It is hanging in my bedroom above my desk where I do a lot of writing. Its simple and clean colors inspire me to clear my mind. Something about it is just so refreshing and classic.
The most special part about this photo is that it was a gift from my grandfather, or as I call him, my Poppy. Poppy has a true talent for photography. All of his photos capture the light just right. They are absolutely beautiful and look absolutely professional. He has natural born talent that I truly envy! Maybe I’ll inherit it one day…
I was lucky enough to get to interview Poppy about his photos and he had some wonderfully insightful things to say…
Poppy, tell me a little bit about yourself
Well, let’s see… Basically there’s three things I like to do, one is eat, two is play golf and three I like to take pictures. Its just so fun to have your phone as a camera and get pictures that are not really staged. I especially like nature pictures. You know, you just see different things in different light so I really do enjoy doing that. If I had my life to do over I really think I would like to be a wildlife photographer. And I love to travel.
What inspired you to take up photography?
Well, a long time ago, I got a bird book and I actually drew this bird that was on the front of this little book. And then I started doing some drawings and things that I really liked and that was kind of a slow process. So when these little cameras started coming out when I retired I got this little camera, olympus I think it was. It was really small but it took great pictures. I carried it with me all the time when I took walks. I liked to get pictures of caterpillars and trees. I just really like the different shapes, lighting and the way lines go and how they contrast. It was something that was free and you could do wherever you go.
I read one time that Monet said it is all about the light. He would take the same picture and paint it on different canvases but at different stages of the day to capture the difference in the lighting.
What would you say is your favorite subject to photograph?[Specifically in nature]. . . You know I really like to photograph animals but I don’t have a camera capable of capturing them so quickly and so easily. I really like insects as well. You see these little bitty insects that you don’t even realize are right in your back yard. I just like anything with a lot of color.
Do you have a favorite photograph that you have taken?Yes actually! I have a big picture at home hanging in our exercise room. It was from our trip to New England and its of an oak leaf hydrangea; it was a blue one. I really like that.
There’s another one, one I took in Colorado Springs. There’s a big resort there and I took some pictures of these flowering bushes. They had pink flowers. I really like that one. Those are probably my two favorites.
Is there anything else you want to add? Any advice about photography or life in general?Just be aware of your surroundings all the time, any place you go. It could be a person, it could a place, you know an insect or an animal or a tree. Take several pictures and that way you can eliminate the bad ones.Let me tell you. Your uncle Brian has taught me to live in the moment. I used to be so aggressive. I love to play golf and my idea of playing golf was to play as many holes as I could possibly play, as fast as I could. When started playing with Brian, he had to take it so slow. And I realized “You know what? I enjoy this a lot more now than when I was just trying to hurry around.” But all of life is that way. Everybody’s in a hurry to get some place. Just enjoy right now.
There are many moments that define a person’s life. Sometimes, when reflecting on one’s life, it is hard to pick out one true defining moment. When I look back however, there is one moment that really stands out to me.
Growing up, my parents instilled in me the values of serving others. Both of my parents were always donating time and resources to those who were less fortunate. When my parents sat my sisters and I down to discuss the possibility of becoming foster parents, without a question my sisters and I all immediately agreed. I was eight years old.
We had many adorable and wonderful little foster brothers and sisters come in and out of our house. To this day people still ask me what that was like almost as if it was some sort of burden. I cannot emphasize enough how much of a blessing that was. I will never forget the feeling of finding out that we were going to have the privilege of having another little person in our home to take care of, look after and play pretend with.
With each child that came in and out of our home my little sisters and I learned a new lesson. We knew that each placement could last a few sweet days or, if it was God’s will, a lifetime. We learned to savor the time we had with our little siblings. We learned to love unconditionally and to live in the present because you never knew what could happen in the next moment. Most importantly, we learned how absolutely blessed we were to have been given our parents. They are an absolute and true example of unconditional love.
Little did I know that all of these small defining moments were leading up to the one true defining moment of my life. God knew perfectly what he was going to do next in our lives. One night we got a phone call that a little three-month old baby boy needed a loving home to keep him safe. We scrambled around, friends and family donating clothes and diapers and bottles. I remember picking out a teddy bear from my collection of stuffed animals to put in his little bed.
The next day, my mom picked my sisters and I up from school and we went to meet the social worker who would bring me my little brother. I was ten years old. I remember getting out of the car and seeing a sweet little toe headed baby boy. I was the first one to get to hold him and I will remember that moment for the rest of my life.
That day was truly the best day of my life and I will cherish it forever. The incredible choices and sacrifices that my parents have made in order to show me what it is like to have a servant’s heart is something that will impact me forever. I will spend the rest of my life trying to give back to those less fortunate because of the pure love and hope that my little John-David has given me.